Roots Of Insecurities and HOW to Overcome Them :
We all have heard the term “insecurity” a lot.Maybe most of you know what it means in your perceptions but do you REALLY know it in it’s complete form?
Insecurities is a subconscious state of mind fueled by stress and anxiety and restlessness emotions which makes you feel unsafe in a situation around you.The person starts to doubt himself a lot because he/she is not satisfied the way society sees them.They feel that they need to live rules made by the society.
Roots of insecurities can be many forms.It can be because of childhood trauma or maybe their upbringing was in a manner which made them believe as a child that they need to accept the society norms and look up to certain people and behave accordingly.
We often see parents shouting at their kids for doing something wrong so much that they unknowing instill fear inside them.This fear later becomes a root cause of insecurity and creates a lack of expression.Because of which we fear to listen to ourselves and start listening to others.This feeling of being judged all the time is most common out of all.One of it’s symptoms are we just delay doing things for us in order to please other people.
One of the big factors of insecurity is constant COMPARISON.Everybody at some point in their life goes through a phase of comparison,where we compare ourselves to another individual who is doing all the things which we want to do in our life and if we are not able to get it done then we just stick a label called “luck” to that person not knowing why and how he did it which leads to insecurity.
Insecurity is also masked by perfectionism.During a day,how many times we unknowingly replace the word excellent or best by perfect?Because as humans we want to achieve perfection in each and every aspect of life, right?We give a lot of excuses by tagging it under the word “perfection” when we are not able to achieve the results.That’s why most of the people don’t do what they love as they don’t feel they are perfect for that job or for that person or whatever it is.
Now , the main question is how do I deal with this shit ?
- Well, the first step is accepting that it is okay and not abnormal to feel that way and not trying to beat yourself up for it.Self acceptance is one of the hardest thing to do.
2. Secondly, identify a person who is positive,matured and understands you the most than any other individual.Talk to that person with a lot of freedom about these issues.Or if you are not able to find such a person,use internet.There are so many people talking about positivity and optimism.Listen to those podcasts and watch videos over and over again.
3. Try to limit toxic people in your circle.Don’t listen to other people’s judgement and get involved in conversations which will stimulate your growth.
4.Put your priorities over others.Take care of yourself first and then help others.Love yourself and say that “you are enough” each day.Understand that as a individual, you are unique and each one’s path is different from another.
5.Try to understand yourself and learn your imperfections.Everybody has it but no one talks about them.Try different things and know what best suits for you.Keep evolving in that thing.Progress is more important than result.
6.And the most important out of all don’t put a time limit on yourself.Do things when you feel comfortable and confident.
Following these things is not easy, but once a person gets into this, journey of self improvement gives you a strong believe that you can achieve anything.
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